You’re ready. You have decided that you want to explore the world of dating with a new person who’s available to you. You are comfortable with your body and with yourself as a person. You know you can be fun and funny without making yourself appear desperate and vulnerable, and you are not a weirdo who needs to be turned on. You can control your emotions, and you understand the importance of being honest, timely and respectful in relationships. Finally, you understand that people can be different, and you realize that you don’t have to fit into one mold. You are willing to explore and try new things. You might have been single for a long time. You are looking to meet a new person, perhaps a potential mate who will enrich your life and make it more fun. Are you over the dating thing? Here’s what you’re missing out on.

Dressing Well

For men, your appearance says a lot. If you’re in a bar and see a cute girl, but you’re wearing a baggy hoodie, you could be mistaken for a total loser. Nobody wants to date a bum. But if you’re dressed nicely—if you’re wearing a good jacket or a nice shirt or nice, clean jeans—you can easily win a girl’s attention. If you’re smart about it, you can even do this wearing something really casual. Try to look neat.

I hate to say it, but guys are pretty much animals at heart, and looking good lets other people know that you are doing okay with yourself. When you’re wearing a tasteful outfit, you look comfortable, confident and creative. Girls are crazy for creative guys, and you’re telling the world you are confident and cool, too. Plus, cute girls will be drawn to you like moths to a flame, and if you want to be successful in your dating, you need to look good. You don’t need to spend a fortune to get the look you want. You don’t have to spend a fortune on your personal wardrobe, either. When you need to look really cute for a date, just spruce up with some new clothes.

Women, on the other hand, need to dress smarter in order to look confident. Dressing skimpily won’t do it. If you’re wearing a low-cut top, or something that reveals a lot of skin, it’s not going to help you. If you’re wearing a short skirt, or something super short, it won’t help you.
Step 1: Write out your ideal woman’s profile

We won’t tell you to write a profile that mirrors how you think others will see you. Instead, aim to write a profile that displays your personality and interests in a concise, readable way. Let’s use our own as an example:

What do you think about when you think about me?

You’re most likely to think about:

Being out of shape and fat.

Falling asleep during sex.

How much you’d eat if you were starving to death.

Waiting for an overnight delivery from Amazon.

Will you ever forgive me?

You’re most likely to think about:

Wanting to throttle your sister.

Being overcome with jealousy when your boyfriend pays attention to someone else.

Why would I be interested in a relationship with you?

A lot of people say the words, “I like you as a friend,” and just expect the relationship to happen by itself. This is great, because it can prevent you from getting hurt. If you’re interested in starting something with someone new, though, it’s important to put yourself out there. Here’s how to let someone know you like them.

Look at them and say, “I like you.”

Wait for an answer that says, “Me too.”

Wait for an answer that says, “Who are you?”

Try and say this a few times in a row. Have fun being the person who asks for clarification—you’re on to something.

If they don’t want to talk, don’t be offended! It’s normal, even if their answer is, “I like you too.”

If they answer, “Who are you?” or just “What do you do?” or the like, it’s OK. Don’t take it as a bad sign. Say, “I’m a student at [university] [college/high school].” You’re just being polite. You’re not actually trying to tell them who you are or what you do. You’re just making sure they know that you are a person and you are human, too. This is called the “I-am-not-a-robot” phenomenon, and it’s been studied by psychologists. It’s really cool. Go to Eureka Moments to read more about it.

Now, they may say anything. And maybe you’ll be best friends forever